Are You Commitment-Phobic?
“If you hold firm to some wish list that has too many limitations or too many qualifiers, soon you’ll have missed your window of opportunity [for finding love].”
“Unresolved issues are like baggage. If you don’t take the time to empty those bags, they get heavier with each trip. Pretty soon you’re dragging a steamer trunk of bruised emotions with you into subsequent relationships.”
This whole article really struck a cord with me…however they don’t describe HOW to address the baggage and let it go.
“[Some clients] come in with a laundry list of 20 traits that describe some sort of ideal person, and then are inflexible when it comes to reassessing those traits that really don’t matter. And if and when they do go out on a date, they are nitpicky, and don’t give their dates a chance. These are all signs that they are still processing the divorce, that they feel things are moving to quick, and they just aren’t yet ready to start dating again. They may be sitting across from the most wonderful person in the world, but it’s also true that timing is everything.”
